Do you ever feel like one side of you is thinking or feeling one thing, while another side of you thinks or feels another? Sometimes making decisions becomes difficult because the voices feel like they are at war with one another? If so, you are not alone! Part of our normal developmental process as we grow up is to sort through which aspects of ourselves get us love, attention, and safety. Those aspects tend to have different voices that guide us through life.
That is some of what I learned in a Voice Dialogue for Coaches class with Jan Berg and BJ Levy of inviteCHANGE last week. I became interested in the technique during my coach training and I have been looking forward to adding it to my toolbox to support clients.
I have also enjoyed several sessions with Jan and BJ and find the work incredibly powerful for sorting through the voices in my head so that I can make decisions more clearly and quickly.
What struck me most in the training was the concept of helping clients build a Central Consciousness that becomes the orchestra conductor for the different aspects of ourselves. This enables us to utilize the wisdom of each piece without having them at war with one another so that we can be more effective while having peace in my head! Fantastic! I have already began incorporating the concepts in with my clients with wonderful success!
I am grateful for this wonderful work that empowers people from the inside - out! For more information, please read more, or feel free to contact me.
What are your voices saying?
Until next week, be well!
Rachel
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
Tuesday, April 6, 2010
Which wolf are you feeding?
Last week I had the priveledge of attending a Power Chicks event to hear a dear friend and colleague, Beth Buelow, of Intentional Talk, speak about "What's Love Got to Do With It?".
In honor of my rule of threes (hear something once, let it pass; hear something twice, take note; hear something three times, take action) it felt important to pass along a teaching I heard from her for the third time.
I cannot tell where I heard it first - it seemed to jump out of my bones when I heard a similar version from a powerful healer and gifted teacher, Jeni Dahn. It is a story that has been passed to her many times. Beth sited her source as Harold Kushner’s ‘Living a Life That Matters’. While the stories vary slightly, the essence remains the same.
The lesson comes from a Native American elder who talked about having two wolves inside him at all times - one white and one black. One wolf was "good", and the other, "mean". He described the mean one as fighting the good one all the time. When asked which wolf wins, he reflected and then replied, "The one I feed the most."
That story speaks to me on so many levels, and is such a powerful illustration of the profound impact stories offer as learning, or "medicine".
As focused and clear as I feel in any moment, not far away are the voices of doubt, fear, and lack. It seems so simple - which one do I feed? Which plant in my garden gets the most energy from compost in the soil, the sun in the sky, and the rain in its' roots? That plant will grow faster, stronger, and bare more fruit.
And, I know my life to be a vivid reflection of the fact that what I feed with my attention, my energy, and my time grows stronger. What I love about his beautiful short story, is that is also underscores the fact that we are at full choice as to what we feed, therefore, what we recieve. It is a piece of our limitless co-creation with the creative forces around us.
It also struck me that this is another way to view the previous story of the client feeding her "wanting" by looking off to the horses who had chosen not to join us in the arena. In so doing, she was also choosing not to feed her peace by engaging with the horses already in the arena, laying down around her.
I offer to you, which wolf are you feeding? What voices are you spending time indulging? What are you focused on? And, how's it working? Are you getting what you want?
For this moment, I choose deep gratitude for vibrant health, loving support, and joyful collaboration.
To the Creator in each of you,
Rachel
In honor of my rule of threes (hear something once, let it pass; hear something twice, take note; hear something three times, take action) it felt important to pass along a teaching I heard from her for the third time.
I cannot tell where I heard it first - it seemed to jump out of my bones when I heard a similar version from a powerful healer and gifted teacher, Jeni Dahn. It is a story that has been passed to her many times. Beth sited her source as Harold Kushner’s ‘Living a Life That Matters’. While the stories vary slightly, the essence remains the same.
The lesson comes from a Native American elder who talked about having two wolves inside him at all times - one white and one black. One wolf was "good", and the other, "mean". He described the mean one as fighting the good one all the time. When asked which wolf wins, he reflected and then replied, "The one I feed the most."
That story speaks to me on so many levels, and is such a powerful illustration of the profound impact stories offer as learning, or "medicine".
As focused and clear as I feel in any moment, not far away are the voices of doubt, fear, and lack. It seems so simple - which one do I feed? Which plant in my garden gets the most energy from compost in the soil, the sun in the sky, and the rain in its' roots? That plant will grow faster, stronger, and bare more fruit.
And, I know my life to be a vivid reflection of the fact that what I feed with my attention, my energy, and my time grows stronger. What I love about his beautiful short story, is that is also underscores the fact that we are at full choice as to what we feed, therefore, what we recieve. It is a piece of our limitless co-creation with the creative forces around us.
It also struck me that this is another way to view the previous story of the client feeding her "wanting" by looking off to the horses who had chosen not to join us in the arena. In so doing, she was also choosing not to feed her peace by engaging with the horses already in the arena, laying down around her.
I offer to you, which wolf are you feeding? What voices are you spending time indulging? What are you focused on? And, how's it working? Are you getting what you want?
For this moment, I choose deep gratitude for vibrant health, loving support, and joyful collaboration.
To the Creator in each of you,
Rachel
Thursday, April 1, 2010
Delight in the small things!
Hello, friends!
Spring is truly springing here at the farm! With it comes the chaotic energy of creation as everything unfolds to expand into the next bigger version of themselves for the summer.
I wanted to share a quick story that touched me, in the hopes you may also find something for yourself.
My husband and I were driving down a busy, 5 lane road and talking about some heavy topic. We passed by an assisted living community and I thought, "Wow. I don't ever want to live in one of those."
And, then, on the corner of the busy road we traveled and a small, quiet side street, was an elderly man bent over - almost to the ground. He caught my attention because I assumed something must be "wrong"!
As we passed, I realized he was cradling a camera in his hands, and he was leaning over, focusing on a dandalion blossom that was growing up through the crack in the pavement. He was angling to get just the right perspective on this vibrantly gold flower. He seemed so happy - so intent on that moment of perfection.
A flower that countless others have passed by without a thought. Others, with intent to kill or harm.
And, this man, in the middle of this busy world, saw perfection in the simplest, most common of sights. Not only did he notice, he was cherishing the beauty - capturing it to hold onto, perhaps during a rainy day inside.
I asked myself, "Where am I missing the beauty and perfection?" Where am I not noticing, taking it for granted, or not cherishing what I am blessed to behold.
Until next time,
Be well
Spring is truly springing here at the farm! With it comes the chaotic energy of creation as everything unfolds to expand into the next bigger version of themselves for the summer.
I wanted to share a quick story that touched me, in the hopes you may also find something for yourself.
My husband and I were driving down a busy, 5 lane road and talking about some heavy topic. We passed by an assisted living community and I thought, "Wow. I don't ever want to live in one of those."
And, then, on the corner of the busy road we traveled and a small, quiet side street, was an elderly man bent over - almost to the ground. He caught my attention because I assumed something must be "wrong"!
As we passed, I realized he was cradling a camera in his hands, and he was leaning over, focusing on a dandalion blossom that was growing up through the crack in the pavement. He was angling to get just the right perspective on this vibrantly gold flower. He seemed so happy - so intent on that moment of perfection.
A flower that countless others have passed by without a thought. Others, with intent to kill or harm.
And, this man, in the middle of this busy world, saw perfection in the simplest, most common of sights. Not only did he notice, he was cherishing the beauty - capturing it to hold onto, perhaps during a rainy day inside.
I asked myself, "Where am I missing the beauty and perfection?" Where am I not noticing, taking it for granted, or not cherishing what I am blessed to behold.
Until next time,
Be well
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